Spanking Dating vs CollarSpace

Short answer: CollarSpace is a BDSM personals site where dominants, submissives and switches post profiles, browse by role and take part in forums, journals and groups. Spanking appears in its interest list alongside canes and crops and corner time. Spanking Dating is a dating site for spanking alone, where every profile opens with your role, style and limits. Pick CollarSpace for broad dom and sub personals with community features. Pick Spanking Dating if spanking is what you want a partner for.

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What CollarSpace is

CollarSpace is a BDSM personals site. You can browse members by gender (female, male, trans or couple), by orientation and by role, dominant, submissive or switch, and narrow results by age, height, weight, country and US state. There is even a filter for people who are willing to relocate. When you describe what you are seeking, the options include dominants, submissives and switches of each gender, as well as friends, online contact, romance and roommates.

Its interest list is long and covers most of BDSM. Spanking is there, along with canes and crops, corner time and domestic service, so spankos will find people who share their tastes. Around the personals, CollarSpace offers forums, journals and groups, including a group for female-led relationships, plus live and broadcast features.

Registration is for adults aged 18 and over and asks for a zip code. New profiles go through a review that the site says usually takes 24 to 48 hours, and approved profiles can then send messages. Its safety page advises meeting first in a public venue rather than at anyone's home, and points readers towards local BDSM education groups for consent training. The homepage also carries advertising, including for other dating and cam sites.

What Spanking Dating is

Spanking Dating is a dating site made for one interest. Every profile starts with a role, spanker, spankee or switch, then the style of spanking you enjoy, the implements you welcome or refuse, your hard limits and the arrangement you want. That might be a single meeting, a regular play partner, a platonic arrangement, a disciplinary dynamic between adults or a relationship.

At sign-up you select who you want to meet, in any combination of men, women, couples and nonbinary people. You browse, receive daily suggestions and message people whose profiles fit yours. VIP opens members-only chat rooms and private group chats. The site runs in any browser, and in selected markets there are native apps for iPhone and Android.

Roles: dom and sub, or spanker and spankee

CollarSpace uses the language of BDSM as a whole: dominant, submissive and switch. Those roles cover power exchange in every form, from service to bondage to protocol. Spanking Dating uses the language of spanking: spanker, spankee and switch. Many people are both, but not everyone. Plenty of spankees are not submissive outside a scene, and plenty of spankers have no interest in wider dominance.

If you think of yourself first as a dominant or submissive, and spanking is one way you enjoy that dynamic, CollarSpace's framing may feel natural. If you think of yourself first as a spanko, a profile that asks about implements, positions and intensity will describe you better.

Community and conversation

CollarSpace's forums, journals and groups give it a social side that suits people who like to read, write and talk about BDSM in public threads. Spanking Dating keeps conversation focused on meeting people: one-to-one messages, members-only chat rooms for group talk, and private group chats you can set up with people you already know. Our guides and advice cover the topics many people would otherwise ask in a forum, from first messages to aftercare.

Safety and privacy

Both sites encourage meeting in public first. CollarSpace reviews new profiles before they can message. Spanking Dating offers optional verification that members can choose: ID Verification for a Blue Tick, Video Verification with a moderator and no paperwork, and Admin Profile Validation by staff. You can block and report anyone, and you pick a username unrelated to your legal name.

On any site, keep identifying details out of photos and text until you trust someone, message for a while before meeting, and agree limits and a safeword in writing before anything private. See our safe spanking guide for more.

Which should you choose?

Choose CollarSpace if you want broad BDSM personals across every dom and sub interest, with forums and journals alongside. Choose Spanking Dating if spanking is the centre of what you want and you would like every profile to start there. Some spankos use both, keeping separate usernames and photos on each.

Compare more options in the best spanking dating sites or on the comparisons overview.

Questions people ask

Is CollarSpace good for spanking?

CollarSpace lists spanking, canes and crops and corner time among its BDSM interests, so spankos will find people there. It covers BDSM in general, while Spanking Dating focuses on spanking alone with profiles that start with role and limits.

How long does CollarSpace profile approval take?

CollarSpace says its review of new profiles usually takes 24 to 48 hours, and approved profiles can then send messages. Spanking Dating offers optional ID, video and admin verification badges instead.

What is the difference between dom and sub roles and spanker and spankee roles?

Dominant and submissive describe power exchange in general. Spanker and spankee describe who gives and who receives a spanking. Many people are both, but a spankee is not always submissive and a spanker is not always dominant.

What is a good CollarSpace alternative for spankos?

Spanking Dating is a good alternative if you want a dating site where everyone shares an interest in spanking. You choose who you want to meet at sign-up and can message people whose role and limits fit yours.

Can I find domestic discipline partners on CollarSpace or Spanking Dating?

CollarSpace lists domestic service among its interests and has groups such as one for female-led relationships. On Spanking Dating, you can say in your profile that you want a disciplinary dynamic between consenting adults, so people who want the same can find you. Read our domestic discipline dating page.